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In these posts, I explore everyday challenges like stress, self-belief, and change — reminding you that growth doesn’t have to be perfect or linear.

The Steam Kettle
There's a particular exhaustion that comes from being perpetually "fine." It's the bone-deep weariness of men who've appointed themselves the emotional shock absorbers for everyone around them ...

Feeling Stuck in Life
Let’s be real - no one has life completely figured out, no matter
how much it seems like they do. If you’re in your 20s or 30s and feeling lost, you are not alone. School, family, and social media make it feel ...

The Winding Path
We often admire stories with clear happy endings. Not because the person did exactly what they set out to do, but because things worked out; they found peace, purpose, or something better than they imagined...
Reconnecting With Adult Children
Especially When They’re Neurodiverse
Reconnecting With Your Adult Child After Uni or Work
They walk through the door, suitcase in hand, or slump on the sofa after work - suddenly you’re looking at a version of your child you don’t fully recognise.
They’re older. More independent. Maybe more guarded.
And if they’re neurodivergent - whether autistic, ADHD, or otherwise - the emotional distance might feel even wider.
You ask yourself, "How do I connect with them now?"
The answer starts with curiosity, not control.
Why Is It So Hard?
Adult children often return home with new routines, ideas, and boundaries. For neurodiverse individuals, the world outside can be overwhelming - home needs to be a safe, pressure-free space.
What feels like disconnection is often exhaustion, sensory overload, or simply shifting priorities. It’s not about love — it’s about bandwidth, their battery needs recharging.
6 Gentle Ways to Reconnect
- Don’t force it. Connection grows in quiet moments - while cooking, watching TV, or running errands. Look for natural openings.
- Ask, don’t assume. Try: “What helps you feel most relaxed when you’re home?” instead of “Why are you always in your room?”
- Respect downtime. Especially for neurodiverse adults, silence or solitude is not rejection - it’s recovery.
- Share little bits of you. A funny memory, a challenge you’re facing, or something you’ve learned lately builds trust through mutual openness.
- Celebrate their growth. Say: “You’ve changed in some good ways” - not “You’ve changed so much.”
- Get support. Parenting doesn’t end when they turn 18. In fact, it often becomes more emotionally complex.
You’re Not Alone.
If you’re finding it hard to rebuild a connection with your adult child - especially if they are neurodiverse - you’re not failing. You’re growing. And growth takes support.
🌱 At Horwood Counselling, I offer a calm, judgment-free space for parents like you to talk, reflect, and rediscover how to connect - with your child, and with yourself
Ready to Take the Next Step?
You’ve already shown incredible courage by reading this far. That tells me you’re ready to do something different, even if you’re scared. And that’s okay .... courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s moving forward despite it.
Let’s have a conversation about where you are right now and where you’d like to be. No pressure, no judgment, just two people talking about what’s possible.
